Where is the love??
Where is the love???
Been a very sad few weeks in the world!! My thoughts and prayers go out to all the citizens and tourists affected by all the tragic events in England!! Made me think a lot about how each person truly does affect this earth. Pondering where is the love right now?! (queue in Black Eyed Peas “Where is the love” for the background)
Me and my hippie mantras all promote peace & love, power to the people, girl power, make peace not war…. if only everyone in this world had the same views! We sadly will never change the world into being a perfect place. Free from war and famine, free from hate and racism, free from poverty and bullying. Although if we are part of those who want to change it, the only thing we can really do is better ourselves! It starts with us as individuals. Life is definitely not easy! Things that happen in the world and our own personal experiences affect us, we are by no means perfect. Each and every one of us have been through trials and tribulations. Ups and some definite downs. We need to let those experiences make us grow into better people, not turn us into hateful resentful people! So how can we do that?!
Well since I am a self proclaimed hippie, i’m all about therapy. Voicing our feelings to professionals is always a plus in my books. As the inhabits of this earth, we need to be good people in our day to day lives!! I don’t know about you but making people smile and helping out others always greatly uplifts my spirits! In one of my feel good examples there was an old lady in front of me in line at a department store. She was searching through her bag to find a toonie (to anyone who isn’t Canadian, a toonie is a two dollar coin) so that she wouldn’t have to break a 10 dollar bill. I had a toonie and gave it to her. Now I am by no means rich, yet, but I knew it was the kind thing to do. She didn’t want to accept but I insisted, I told her it would make me happy to help and would be one of my good deeds for the day! She was so happy and appreciative, couldn’t believe I did such a nice gesture. It was mainly selfish for me because I did it to make myself feel good as well, but also to send a little kindness out into the universe! My thoughts after I left the store on her reaction of being so shocked a stranger would do something nice for her, was so saddening… shouldn’t we as neighbours in this world do those kind things?! Not just for family, friends, coworkers, people we know.. but for anyone?! When someone needs help, shouldn’t we help them?! If someone is sad, distressed, going through a hard time in life shouldn’t we lend an open ear and hand?! Give our best advice to help the situation and try our hardest make them feel better?! If we are in a bad mood, which happens, should we take it out on those who are always there for us and love us?! If a friend or loved one wants to do something or go somewhere that doesn’t interest us, should we not compromise and do something for them?! There’s so many of these examples and we all know what they are. I was watching Friends the other day, one of my all time favourite shows, it was an episode about Joey and Phoebe arguing about if there were selfless good deeds. Joey was voicing his opinion on how he believes there is no selfless good deeds. He thinks the act of a good deed is selfish because it makes us feel good to make others feel good! Phoebe was arguing the latter. I’d have to say I agree with Joey! Love Joey but it’s odd to side with him since most of his opinions are a moo point!! (avid Friends watcher inside joke) There, to me, are no selfless good deeds because if you are a good person seeing someone happy, even if the actions were made by something we didn’t want to do, will selfishly make you feel great!
Personally one of the biggest disappointments about this worlds population is bullying and cliques. I get that in this earths 7 and a half billion inhabits, we are all not gonna be best friends but why the need to belittle people?! Make them feel like outsiders, make fun of the different style they have then yours, talk bad about their personal life? Embarrass them in front of schoolmates, coworkers or friends and family? Give dirty looks, attitude, or think you are better than them?? No one to me is better than anyone, we are just different and that’s what makes this world so beautiful! I never could wrap my head around how it would make someone feel good to make another feel bad!! It’s pretty disgusting if I say so myself and it’s right up there alongside war, hunger, climate change and all the bad things we label horrific in my opinion! If you don’t like someone, just don’t talk to them. Be kind when you see them, you don’t have to be best friends, just try to be cordial. I think too many humans in this world need to grow up and find an etiquette school to attend!!!
We as a population have to work on bettering ourselves everyday. It’s work for sure, since we are born imperfect and are embodied by human nature. Little actions each day will make this world a better place! In some cases putting others first. Lending a helping hand to an elder. Opening the door for a stranger. Taking a friend out to take their mind off of a bad situation. Telling your loved ones you love them out of the blue. Not judging ones opinions if they’re different from your own. Not taking out your personal frustrations on someone just because you can. Saying please and thank you. Telling someone you appreciate them. Planning a surprise for someone going through a hard time. Buying someone a gift they’ve been eyeing but cant afford. Staying quiet when you know anything you say at that moment might come out wrong. Talk even if you don’t want to but know it’ll make the other person feel better. Make a nice dinner for your loved one if you know they’ve had a hard day at work. Stand up for someone if you see them getting mistreated. Offer someone a ride if they’re stranded. Write someone a sweet uplifting letter. When involved in life’s inevitable drama, be the bigger person! Appreciate every good thing you have in life and take nothing for granted!! There’s so many ways we can all be a better person! Supporting a charity event is also a great selfish deed. On Mothers day a coworker and I went to a community centre and gave free haircuts to women. Man was it ever a great three hours!! Seeing them so happy to have us there and make their day was such an amazing feeling. Even more so because we didn’t know these ladies and got to hear about their lives while pampering them. That day made my heart so full!
We as an imperfect human race have to remember to try on a daily basis to be a good person, not only for others but so importantly for ourselves!! We only live once and what a great feeling to live a happy life on this gorgeous place we call home by not letting the sadness and hateful people in this world affect us, but help us in becoming better people. Help others, help the world and go out knowing we were part of the inhabits that were truly beautiful on the inside!
Be kind to one another!!
Sending out Peace & Love to the universe xoxo