It’s cool to be kind

Must be a full moon coming because all the unkind, mean spirited people are coming out of the woodworks today!! It began right in the morning. I woke up early to shovel the snow. Toronto was hit with one of the worst snow storms in a long time. I heard on the radio it was the most snow we have had since 1967! After shovelling my backyard I proceeded to go shovel around my car and saw one of my older neighbours holding a shovel in her hand. I asked if I could help before going to work but she said she was ok and thanked me. I started shovelling my car out of its pile of, pretty to look at but horrible to maneuver in, snow. I spent thirty intensely aggravating minutes trying to wiggle my little Volkswagen beetle out of its spot. Cutest car ever but the WORST to have in the winter! Bad car choice for Canada I made. Maybe an upgrade to a Volkswagen van would be a good idea, wink wink! Every two minutes I was going in and out of the car to reverse, then shovel… reverse, then shovel. My poor dad standing in the cold guiding me, arm in a sling. My father had some pretty intense surgery done on his right arm not too long ago and will be out of commission for months. As I was struggling, I noticed two of my neighbours shovelling their driveways as well. Do you think one of them offered to help me or the older lady shovel, nope! How chivalrous!! They see an older woman in the freezing cold shovelling her driveway and don’t offer to help. A young girl getting so exasperated trying to get her car out of her parking spot, while her father is hurt and telling her where to shovel and didn’t even bat an eye. How sad to think that’s the world we live in now. So selfish and uncaring!! Let me tell you if that was my wonderful father he would’ve helped both of us ladies without hesitation but that’s the good man he is! To all the remaining good men out there, we thank you for being you! I made it a point to thank my oh so sweet (sarcasm at its finest) neighbours for the help as I drove away. I think I used the word “a$$holes” too. My bad for that but I was so disappointed with people at that point. Oh, but it just gets better!! As i’m heading to work I get to a big hill and know my little car will not make it up without getting stuck so I decide to make a right and take the longer, play it safe route. I slow down to make sure I can pull into the right lane and a man in the car as he’s passing by me gives me the finger. I was not cutting him off nor trying to. Solidarity at its finest! It’s a snow storm. We are all struggling to get to work, late and not in the greatest of moods but do we need to be rude to each other? Like I said, must be a full moon! I finally get to work 30 minutes late. So annoyed!! At that point I am so bothered by the fact people can be such jerks and honestly, it still surprises me every time! I guess because I still have hope that there’s more good human beings out there than bad! It really bugs me when people can be so unpleasant. What satisfaction does that give you? It bothers me so much when I hurt someones feelings or act like an asshole myself, but then again I have a conscience!! Then to make the day even better, I get some pretty awful things spoken about myself! Such a defamation of my character and I know it but it still upset me so much! First of all, talking to people like they are garbage is not something I am good at or will do no, matter how angry or hurt I am but to each their own I guess! I don’t understand why people want to be rude to others. We all make mistakes for sure, we’re human. I have made many, I am definitely nowhere close to perfect but I will always try my hardest to refrain from that level of being unkind and I am nowhere close to the things that were said about me! I don’t even like to consider people being these certain ways, sometimes even when they show me they can be but maybe that’s my mistake! It’s sad to think that people feel pleasure in hurting others on purpose! At the end of the day no matter what anyone thinks about you, you have to remember who you truly are! That’s the thing… people can act mean to you, be uncaring, say hurtful words, want to push your buttons, think horrible things about you that aren’t true and scarily believe them to make themselves feel better, or just not show good acts of human kindness like the shovel snobs this morning but at the end of the day you have to remember who you are and be better than them! It might hurt you or be hard to comprehend but we can’t change the way people act, think or feel! We just have to control the way we respond to it and the person we want to be. I don’t like being mean to others, it gives me no pleasure in any way hurting peoples feelings and nothing anyone ever says about me or does to me will make me cold! Others can choose to be as cold or hateful as they want to to cope with hurt or anger but I will always try to “kill it with kindness” and will never let anyone change that about me!! To anyone who is going through the same and just bothered by how mean humanity is becoming, don’t let this sometimes cruel world or the hurtful people in it change you into acting like them too! On a more positive loving note, Saturday was definitely the total opposite of today! I went to a fundraiser for a charity that supports The Princess Margaret hospital to benefit breast cancer research. It was so lovely!! 1500 people there to give back and help fight the cancer that kills over 5000 woman a year. The event over the years has raised over $800,000 for the hospitals research. The room was scattered with pink. Pink breast cancer symbols and balloons. Girls wearing pink sashes and headbands. Great food, raffle tickets sold to contribute to the cause, lots of laughter, love and wine. The host told an example of a young woman who passed away from the horrible sickness at forty one years of age. So sad, gone way too soon and unfairly. My favourite part of the night was when he made everyone in the room hold hands and have a moment of silence for those effected by breast cancer. In that minute I prayed for all the people suffering from any heartbreak! It was beautiful to watch, all these people caring and participating for a wonderful cause!! At the end of the day, no matter how cruel this world is, any loss you are going through, how hurtful, mean or selfish people can be, whatever tough situation you’re experiencing we have to remember the beauty because there still is so much of it in this world!! Moments like Saturday remind me of that. We have to be the better ones. Strive for an always better version of ourselves and always try our hardest to be kind! To have a conscience. To have morals. To show acts of kindness to loved ones as well as strangers! To not stoop to the level of peoples cruel ways although sometimes you want to. Life is hard for sure but don’t let it make you hard as well!

Peace, Love & it’s way cooler to be kind xoxo